Amber Healing
Anxiety Counselling and Couples Therapy in Rochester, Kent and Online
About Me
I’ve spent much of my life listening to my quiet inner voice that says there must be more: more understanding, more ease, more truth. My curiosity has always been drawn to what it means to live well, even when anxiety, loss or love make life feel uncertain.
I know anxiety not just in theory, but in experience. I lived with high-functioning anxiety from a young age - still getting on with life, still showing up while that sinking worry, nauseous flutter and constant edge followed quietly behind me. Death anxiety entered my world as a teenager and stayed for many years, until I learned to meet it with curiosity rather than fear. That shift - learning to listen instead of fight - changed everything for me, and it deeply shapes how I sit with others.
Love is a strong force in my life, and I’ll be honest: I haven’t known love without pain. So when love hurts, I hear you. I believe healing happens when we feel seen, understood and gently challenged to grow.
Beyond our work together, you'll usually find me with a latte in my hand and my favourite book to keep me company. I’m also a vintage soul and a devoted animal lover. I'm a person with a million questions and an anxious perfectionist heart. Most importantly, I value depth, honesty and meaningful conversations - because through them, clarity emerges and life begins to feel more aligned.
With warmth and care
Gintare
Here to listen, reflect and walk alongside you
'Fine' is becoming a heavy word to carry. Your mind scans the horizon for every possible failure - a missed email, a future financial shift, a physical ache. You believe that if you can think of the disaster first, you can prevent it. Your body has forgotten how to be off-duty.
Can you see yourself in this?
How I work
My Therapeutic Approach
I believe therapy is a collaborative, human-to-human therapeutic relationship rather than a set of clinical labels. Working with adults and couples, I meet you where you are to help you explore your authentic self and build healthier connections. My approach is truly integrative, blending the depth of psychodynamic and existential counselling with elements of CBT and mindfulness for practical grounding. Whether we are navigating complex anxiety or relationship dynamics, I tailor our sessions to your unique needs. I offer a safe, non-judgemental space in-person or online to help you build the resilience needed for your path forward.
Practical Details
Initial 60-minute Session: £40
Follow-Up 60-minute Session: £60
90-minute Couples Therapy Session: £100
Payment: Cash or Bank Transfer
Flexible Booking Options:
- Weekly
- Fortnightly
- Monthly
- Single Session
Important: For mental health crises, call 999 or visit A&E.
Initial Contact
After initial contact, I'll schedule a consultation and send you an introductory email to prepare for our first meeting.
Cancellation Policy
24-hour cancellation policy (late cancellations: half fee; missed appointments: full fee)
Couples Therapy
You haven’t spoken to each other for weeks, and the silence feels heavy, almost unbearable. When you try to talk, it ends in shouting, tears or withdrawal. You wonder if love - or hope - still exists between you. And yet, separation doesn’t feel like the answer. Imagine a space where you can truly hear each other, give each other room and slowly reconnect - where intimacy, closeness and understanding can begin to return, perhaps for the first time in a long while.
Together, We Rebuild What Matters Most
I'm here for you both – whether you're navigating conflict, rebuilding trust, or rediscovering connection. I bring warmth, structure and practical tools to help couples create the relationship you both deserve. My integrative approach combines Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) and mindfulness – attuned to your unique story.
No blame. No sides. Just progress.
Common Questions Couples Ask Before Starting
I focus on both partners going deep into your experiences and feelings – uncovering the vulnerable emotions beneath arguments. Together, we map and understand these negative cycles so you can rebuild connection.
You'll each share your experiences while I hold compassionate space. We'll map your communication styles and you'll be able to practice new ways of reaching each other.
Perfectly normal! Many couples start this way. Book your first couples therapy session to see if we are a good match. No obligation to continue. Most couples feel hopeful after the initial session.
Never. My role is understanding both truths. I help you hear each other. Both of your stories matter.
It depends on your issues and commitment – you might choose just a few sessions or work up to 20. Most couples notice shifts in 4-8 sessions. Monthly follow-ups are always an option to sustain your progress.
Many couples rebuild trust and connection – but some choose to go separate ways. Therapy clarifies all paths. Whichever path you decide, I will support you through your decision with compassion and clarity.
Yes, if there is an ongoing affair, any form of abuse or severe addiction present, we may need to gently pause couples work. In these tender situations, individual support or referral to specialised resources often provide the strongest foundation first - always with your safety and healing at heart. I'm here to guide towards the right next steps without judgement.
Couples Stories
One couple felt stuck in their pursue-withdraw cycle – one partner pushed for connection, the other withdrew to protect themselves. The main issue was hidden emotions: fear of disconnection and overwhelm beneath their arguments. We untangled this by mapping their negative cycle together and practicing small repair moments – learning to hear each other’s deeper feelings instead of reacting to surface conflict.
The result: Calmer conversations, genuine reaching during tension and weekly connection moments where both feel truly heard and secure again.
“We finally saw we were both hurting. Now we reach for each other.”
Anxiety
You know the feeling of rising each day, stepping into the world with a smile and bringing a "bubbling" energy to your work and your family because you feel you simply must keep going. On the outside, you are composed and capable. But inside, it can feel heavy, almost suffocating. You are carrying that constant, hollow sinking feeling in your stomach: the silent weight of past grief, the sting of broken relationships or a profound sense of loss that others don't see.
Maybe it hits you hardest in the stillness of the night. You wake up with a racing heart and a mind that won't shut down, grappling with a sharp, sudden fear of the unknown that feels impossible to shake. You’ve become an expert at masking the struggle but the physical toll of "holding it all together" is becoming too much to carry alone.
What if I told you that this anxiety isn’t as terrifying as it seems?
Anxiety is what happens when your internal alarm system stays stuck on "high alert." It's a human experience that might also indicate the danger, stress or lack of connection.
Think of high-functioning anxiety as the "invisible" struggle. While generalized anxiety often leads to visible avoidance or a struggle to complete daily tasks, high-functioning anxiety looks like success from the outside. It is the anxiety that propels you forward rather than holding you back but at a massive internal cost.
Integrative Counselling can be very effective for anxiety issues. Because I combine different approaches, it can allow us to address your anxiety from different perspectives – cognitive, emotional, somatic or behavioural. In sessions you can explore your unique triggers and experiences.
Anxiety often comes from existential concerns, like fear of failure, uncertainty about life or fear of death. This type of approach can help you face and understand your fears, reducing their intensity.
Completely eliminating anxiety may not be realistic. Anxiety is a part of your existence. You can reduce it to a level that feels comfortable and freeing by understanding, accepting and working with anxiety.
Sound Meditation
mindfulness technique
Sound baths offer a restorative journey for the self, countering the disruptive noises of daily life. This mindfulness technique can help restore energy, reduce stress and anxiety, and improve sleep. In my sessions, I use crystal singing bowls, a Tibetan bowl, a rain stick, and tuning forks. I can also incorporate guided meditation.
You have the option to include sound meditation in your counselling session, which will require additional time, or you can book it separately.
Sound meditation is not suitable for virtual settings.
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Contact
If you’re looking for anxiety or couples therapy in Rochester, Kent, or online, I'd love to hear from you. We can use our first session to talk through what’s bringing you to therapy and make sure I’m the right fit for your journey.
To get started, you can book the first session directly through my booking system, or simply send me a message using the contact form.
I typically respond within 24 hours. All communication is strictly confidential, using secure phone and email services.
Privacy and Data Protection:
- No clients are identified on social media
- I advise against sharing personal information on public posts
- I comply with the Data Protection Act 2018 and GDPR
- I am registered with Information Commissioner's Office (ICO)
- Your details are not shared with third parties
- Strict confidentiality is maintained throughout
Please note: Online scheduling shows limited availability. For additional time slots, contact me directly to check my full availability.
Testimonials
FAQs
Together, we will gently explore patterns in your thoughts, emotions and experiences. By looking beneath surface concerns, counselling can help uncover deeper meanings, allowing for greater clarity, self-understanding and change.
Yes. Sessions provide a safe, non-judgemental space where you can express your thoughts, feelings and perspectives freely. You are encouraged to speak openly, at your own pace, about whatever feels important to you.
Many clients begin to explore meaningful questions such as “Who am I?” and “How do I really want to live my life?”. Counselling offers space to reflect on these questions, helping you develop a deeper sense of identity, purpose and direction.
Absolutely. This integrative approach - a blend of person-centred and psychodynamic counselling, emotionally focused therapy, mindfulness and sound therapy, existential therapy and some elements from CBT - is particularly helpful if you feel unsure, disconnected or at a crossroads in your life. By combining different therapeutic perspectives, counselling can help you gain insight, feel more grounded and move forward with greater confidence.
Yes. I am fully insured, DBS checked and registered with the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP), registration number 409715. I work in strict accordance with the BACP Ethical Framework and adhere to established best practices, ensuring a safe, professional and ethical therapeutic environment.
To remain at the forefront of my field, I regularly attend workshops, seminars, and continuing professional development training. My ongoing learning includes Couples Therapy, Emotionally Focused Therapy, anxiety, co-dependency and OCD behaviour management, mindfulness and non-duality, autistic burnout, and holistic mental health, among other areas. This allows me to offer informed, up-to-date and responsive support.
My special interests are supporting people with anxiety, particularly high-functioning and death anxiety, understanding it as both a mental and physical experience, and helping couples rebuild connection, closeness, trust and understanding.