Now offering in-person therapy in Rochester and virtual sessions throughout the UK
Is it my intuition or is it my anxiety telling me to leave?
Specialist Counselling for Relationship Dynamics and Anxiety, Supporting Ambitious Perfectionists and Couples
Rochester, Kent and Online
Why I am here for you
Because you deserve a life that feels as peaceful on the inside, as it looks successful on the outside.
I'm Gintare Klimaite, an experienced relationship and anxiety therapist and the founder of Amber Healing. I help high-achieving individuals and partners trapped in the exhausting energy drain of perfectionism and relationship anxiety. If you are constantly questioning yourself, second-guessing your partner and running mental scripts just to keep the peace because trust doesn't come easy, you are carrying a massive weight - along with a deep, crushing loneliness that others' don't see. My role is to help you understand why you feel anxious in your own way because no two stories are the same. Together, we work to quiet your inner critic and self-doubt, so you can finally stop performing and rebuild a real, deep connection.
What happens in our sessions
> Exploration of your childhood, life experiences and events.
> Reflection on emotions, feelings and physical sensations.
> Working through thought patterns and shifting your negative core beliefs.
> Understanding communication styles and how to handle conflicts.
> Techniques for self-regulation.
Acting like everything is normal is the most exhausting part of your day.
Your mind scans the horizon for every possible failure. You brace for the goodbye in every hello, reading silences like exit signs and affection like borrowed time.
You're living in a constant state of "what next", and your body doesn't know what safety feels like.
Can you see yourself in this?
Hyper-vigilance wasn't a flaw; it was the survival skill that kept you safe as a child.
Growing up in a home ruled by addiction or emotional unpredictability taught you to scan every shift in tone and atmosphere just to keep things stable, feeding straight into the relationship anxiety you carry today.
Can you see yourself in this?
Learning the Language of Emotions
You can't transform what you can't name. You were taught how to function, achieve and cope, but not how to sit with vulnerability or name what's happening inside your body.
In our sessions, I teach you the emotional vocabulary, so you don't have to keep guessing or performing your way through life.
How I work
My Therapeutic Approach
'Human Experience First'
Most people come to me because they feel exhausted from apologising to others, being a person that other people want them to be. While I walk alongside you, I don't just sit in silence. I offer real engagement, reflection and human connection. Clients often tell me, 'I've never thought about it that way before'. That's where the real change begins.
Counselling that respects your energy
I understand that some days require deep, heavy conversation, and other days the pace is naturally slower. We don’t "push" for the sake of it. Whether we are unpicking a long-standing problem or just sitting in the space you need that day, the hour is shaped by what you actually require in the room.
You never have to worry about 'performing' or having enough to say. Come as you are.
Finding the right connection is essential for your healing and growth. If you are considering transitioning from another therapist, you don't need any previous records - just your current goals. I welcome you to book a free 15-minute online video consultation to see if we might be a better fit for your next steps.
FAQs
Booking is simple and can be done directly through this website. You can use the “Book Appointment” button to access the contact form, or head over to the Contact Page to find the specific links for individual or couples sessions.
I currently have no waitlist. You can usually secure an initial session quickly, typically within 3 to 14 days.
Absolutely. While relationship anxiety and childhood survival patterns are the heart of my practice, if you connect with me and my approach, we can work on OCD, social anxiety, loneliness, work stress and life transitions. Connection is essential to achieve the therapeutic outcome.
I offer a range of daytime and evening appointments to fit into your busy schedule, including weekend availability for those who can't make it during the week.
My current hours are:
- Monday - Wednesday: 3:00 pm – 10:00 pm
- Saturday: 7:30 am – 3:00 pm
- Tuesday, Thursday and Friday: online sessions only
- Sunday: Closed
I understand that life can be unpredictable and sometimes plans need to change. You always have the right to cancel or reschedule your appointment. To help me manage my diary and offer that space to another client, I kindly ask for at least 24 hours' notice.
Here is how the cancellation policy works:
- More than 24 hours' notice: You can cancel or rebook with no charge. If you already paid, full refund is issued.
- Less than 24 hours' notice: A late cancellation fee applies, which is 50% of your session fee.
- Non-attendance (No-show): If you miss your session without any notice, the full session fee will apply.
Please note that any outstanding fees must be settled before we can book your next appointment. This policy allows me to keep my practice sustainable and ensures that I can offer consistent support to all my clients.
It is completely natural to feel a bit of "first-session" nerves - in fact, many of my clients feel exactly the same way. My goal is to make the process as smooth and transparent as possible for you. Once you’ve reached out, I will offer my current available times so we can find a slot that works for your schedule. When your session is booked, you will receive an automatic booking confirmation via email. I will also send you a personal introductory email. This contains all the practical details you’ll need, such as the address (if we’re meeting in person) or the secure video link (if we’re meeting online), along with what to expect during our first 60 minutes together.
In that first session, there’s no pressure to "perform" or have all the answers. We’ll simply talk about what’s bringing you to therapy and see how we feel working together. I genuinely look forward to meeting you and supporting you in taking this first step.
Together, we will gently explore patterns in your thoughts, emotions and experiences. By looking beneath surface concerns, counselling can help uncover deeper meanings, allowing for greater clarity, self-understanding and change.
Yes. Sessions provide a safe, non-judgemental space where you can express your thoughts, feelings and perspectives freely. You are encouraged to speak openly, at your own pace, about whatever feels important to you.
Many clients begin to explore meaningful questions such as “Who am I?” and “How do I really want to live my life?”. Counselling offers space to reflect on these questions, helping you develop a deeper sense of identity, purpose and direction.
Absolutely. This integrative approach - a blend of person-centred and psychodynamic counselling, emotionally focused therapy, mindfulness and sound therapy, existential therapy and some elements from CBT - is particularly helpful if you feel unsure, disconnected or at a crossroads in your life. By combining different therapeutic perspectives, counselling can help you gain insight, feel more grounded and move forward with greater confidence.
My special interests are supporting people with anxiety, particularly relationship and high-functioning anxiety, understanding it as both a mental and physical experience, and helping couples rebuild connection, closeness, trust and understanding.
To remain at the forefront of my field, I regularly attend workshops, seminars, and continuing professional development training. My ongoing learning includes Couples Therapy, Emotionally Focused Therapy, anxiety, co-dependency and OCD behaviour management, mindfulness and non-duality, autistic burnout, and holistic mental health, among other areas. This allows me to offer informed, up-to-date and responsive support.
You’ve spent so long being the one who 'has it all together.' And then come those breaking moments when you say to yourself - I can't continue this way, I just can't... The real life begins the exact moment you stop running from yourself.
Consultation Room
My practice is based in a private room right on historic Rochester High Street (Cheldgate House, ME1 1LP). It offers a grounded, welcoming space away from the rush of daily life - a comfortable place where you can safely focus on your therapeutic journey.
For Couples
When things feel tense or disconnected at home, stepping into a neutral space can make a massive difference. Being on the High Street lets you leave the daily domestic pressures behind for an hour and focus completely on each other.
Many couples I work with find it really helpful to arrive a little early, grab a coffee together at one of the lovely local cafés and just decompress before our session starts. It helps turn your therapy day into a dedicated, intentional space for your relationship.
For Individuals
If you are navigating anxiety, going through a big life transition or looking for deeper personal healing, this room gives you a secure, confidential space to step away from the noise and unpack whatever you are carrying, at your own pace.
Getting Here
- By Train: The room is just a short, easy walk from Rochester Railway Station
- By Car or Bus: There are plenty of convenient public car parks nearby, and local bus routes stop close by, making your journey here completely stress-free.
