Amber Healing
Anxiety Counselling and Couples Therapy in Rochester, Kent and Online Throughout the UK
Nurturing, Compassionate and Accessible
- You’re fine on ‘paper’, yet anxiety is shaping more of your life than you’d like.
- You overthink, brace yourself, prepare for the worst, then feel exhausted by it
- You wonder why things look stable, yet something still feels off.
Can you see yourself in this?
"Many who show up fully curious about their inner world find a steady path unfolding.
We'll walk it your way-your pace, your truths-with my guidance to keep things clear and grounded."
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About Me
I’ve spent much of my life listening to my quiet inner voice that says there must be more: more understanding, more ease, more truth. My curiosity has always been drawn to what it means to live well, even when anxiety, loss or love make life feel uncertain.
I know anxiety not just in theory, but in experience. I lived with high-functioning anxiety from a young age - still getting on with life, still showing up while that sinking worry, nauseous flutter and constant edge followed quietly behind me. Death anxiety entered my world as a teenager and stayed for many years, until I learned to meet it with curiosity rather than fear. That shift - learning to listen instead of fight - changed everything for me, and it deeply shapes how I sit with others.
Love is a strong force in my life, and I’ll be honest: I haven’t known love without pain. So when love hurts, I hear you. I believe healing happens when we feel seen, understood and gently challenged to grow.
Outside of this work, I’m a big coffee lover, a vintage soul and an animal lover. I value depth, honesty and meaningful conversations - because through them, clarity emerges and life begins to feel more aligned.
With warmth and care
Gintare
Here to listen, reflect and walk alongside you
Testimonials
How I work
Integrative Counselling
I provide short-term and long-term therapy in a safe, confidential, and non-judgmental space.
Our Shared Path to Results
- Step 1: Your Agenda Leads: we begin with a clear understanding what you want to achieve
- Step 2: My Supportive Framework: I use different approaches to explore your life path and experiences to build confidence, self-esteem and track progress together.
- Step 3: Celebrating Wins: Committed clients see huge shifts from overwhelming worry to empowered choices. It's consistent and caring effort. We name and honour every little achievement. Those small daily steps that remind you of your strength.
- Step 4: The Outcome We Aim For: Life where anxiety serves as a signal not a storm because I truly care about the freedom you create.
Inclusive Support
Life's challenges are universal, and I understand that first-hand. I believe everyone deserves support, regardless of their background or beliefs. My approach avoids labels, instead tailoring therapy to your unique needs.
I meet you where you are, acknowledging that vulnerability and emotion are natural parts of the human experience. Together, we'll navigate your challenges, building resilience and finding your path forward in a supportive, non-judgmental space.
Therapeutic Unity
I view counselling as a therapeutic relationship between client and counsellor. My role is to support you in exploring your authentic self and enriching your life.
You will learn how to create healthier relationships which in turn will bring about greater fulfilment.
Approach
I integrate person-centred and psychodynamic approaches, emotionally focused therapy and some elements and techniques from CBT, along with sand tray therapy, existential counselling, and mindfulness. Sound meditation is available upon request. I tailor therapy to your unique needs and goals.
Sessions
I offer in-person and online sessions for adults and couples with potential options for 16-17 year olds. I do not provide telephone sessions.
I've worked with many clients to address severe and complex anxiety, high sensitivity, panic attacks, co-dependency, anger, stress, low self-esteem, relationship challenges, dating, depression, and life transitions.
Practical Details
- Standard Initial Consultation: £40
- Same-day Consultation: £60. The fee is higher than a standard initial consultation as it reflects an immediate access for non-emergency support. For mental health crises, call 999 or visit A&E. Contact me early to check same-day availability.
- Regular 60-minute Follow-Up Session: £60. This is the standard rate for ongoing therapy (extended sessions available at higher rates)
- Combined Couples Starter Package - 2hrs total £140 (30 min consultation+90 min therapy if suitable). First 30 minutes: Focused consultation to explore your situation, discuss how we'll work together and complete the mutual couples counselling agreement and consent forms. Next 90 minutes: Full therapeutic session (only proceeds if we all agree - during the first 30 minutes - that your issues are within my areas of competence and expertise).
Important: The 90-minute therapeutic part will go ahead if after the initial consultation, I believe I can help you effectively and safely. If the issues presented are outside my scope of practice (e.g. active domestic violence, severe untreated addiction or complex cases), we will end after 30-minute consultation. In that case you are only charged the consultation fee of £45 and I will provide suitable referral options.
If you prefer to book separately
- Initial 30-minute Couples Consultation £45
- 90-minute Couples Therapy Session £100.
A £40 deposit is required upon booking a couples session. This deposit secures your appointment and is non-refundable if the session cancelled less than 24hrs
Flexible Booking Options
Fortnightly - Preferred rhythm for most clients, balancing consistent support with time for reflection
Weekly - For more intensive support during tougher times
Monthly - A gentler, budget-friendly pace if preferred.
Single session - Great for one-off check ins.
Payment: Cash or bank transfer
Limited affordable spaces available
Initial Contact
After initial contact, I'll schedule a consultation and send you an introductory email to prepare for our first meeting.
Cancellation Policy
24-hour cancellation policy (late cancellations: half fee; missed appointments: full fee)
Couples Therapy
You haven’t spoken to each other for weeks, and the silence feels heavy, almost unbearable. When you try to talk, it ends in shouting, tears or withdrawal. You wonder if love - or hope - still exists between you. And yet, separation doesn’t feel like the answer. Imagine a space where you can truly hear each other, give each other room and slowly reconnect - where intimacy, closeness and understanding can begin to return, perhaps for the first time in a long while.
Together, We Rebuild What Matters Most
I'm here for you both – whether you're navigating conflict, rebuilding trust, or rediscovering connection. I bring warmth, structure and practical tools to help couples create the relationship you both deserve. My integrative approach combines Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) and mindfulness – attuned to your unique story.
No blame. No sides. Just progress.
What To Expect In Your Couples Journey
1. Safety
We establish boundaries where both voices are heard equally. You'll each share your experience while I hold compassionate space. To ensure a safe and effective journey, I work exclusively with monogamous relationships. This helps us honour the depth of your commitment and create a container where trust can flourish.
2. Intimate Focus
Sessions are designed for just the two of you, allowing space for authentic dialogue without additional voices in the room.
3. Protective Pauses
If there's an ongoing affair, any form of abuse, or severe addiction present, we may need to gently pause couples work. In these tender situations, individual support or referral to specialised resources often provide the strongest foundation first - always with your safety and healing at heart. I'm here to guide towards the right next steps without judgement.
4. Understanding Patterns
We map your communication cycles – those arguments that go nowhere, the silences that hurt. Using EFT, we uncover the emotions beneath the conflict.
( Real example: One couple discovered anger masked fear of abandonment – unlocking deeper connection.)
5. Rebuilding Connection
We practice new ways of reaching each other – vulnerable conversations, repair attempts, moments of genuine appreciation.
My specialty: Celebrating every small win – from "We had our first calm discussion in months" to "I reached out instead of shutting down."
6. Sustaining Growth
We review progress and create your “tools” to handle future challenges. Many couples continue monthly check-ins.
Outcome clients love: "We argue differently now – shorter, kinder, with quicker repairs."
Session Details
Combined Couples Starter Session - 2hrs total £140 (30 min consultation+90 min therapy if suitable). First 30 minutes: Focused consultation to understand your situation and complete the mutual couples counselling agreement and consent forms. Next 90 minutes: Full therapeutic session (only proceeds if we all agree - during the first 30 minutes - that your issues are within my areas of competence and expertise).
Important: The 90-minute therapeutic part will go ahead if after the initial consultation, I believe I can help you effectively and safely. If the issues presented are outside my scope of practice (e.g. active domestic violence, severe untreated addiction or complex cases), we will end after 30-minute consultation. In that case you are only charged the consultation fee of £45 and I will provide suitable referral options.
If you prefer to book separately
- First Consultation: 30 mins, £45
- Follow-Up 90-minute Couples Session: £100
- £40 deposit due at booking to secure your 90-minute appointment
Availability: available for new clients
Format: in-person and online
Confidentiality: BACP standards
5 Common Questions Couples Ask Before Starting
I focus on both partners going deep into your experiences and feelings – uncovering the vulnerable emotions beneath arguments. Together, we map and understand these negative cycles so you can rebuild connection.
Perfectly normal! Many couples start this way. Book your initial 30-min consultation (£45) to see if we are a good match. No obligation to continue. Most couples feel hopeful after the initial consultation.
Never. My role is understanding both truths. I help you hear each other. Both of your stories matter.
It depends on your issues and commitment – you might choose just a few sessions or work up to 20. Most couples notice shifts in 4-8 sessions. Monthly follow-ups are always an option to sustain your progress.
Many couples rebuild trust and connection – but some choose to go separate ways. Therapy clarifies all paths. Whichever path you decide, I will support you through your decision with compassion and clarity.
Couples Stories
One couple felt stuck in their pursue-withdraw cycle – one partner pushed for connection, the other withdrew to protect themselves. The main issue was hidden emotions: fear of disconnection and overwhelm beneath their arguments. We untangled this by mapping their negative cycle together and practicing small repair moments – learning to hear each other’s deeper feelings instead of reacting to surface conflict.
The result: Calmer conversations, genuine reaching during tension and weekly connection moments where both feel truly heard and secure again.
“We finally saw we were both hurting. Now we reach for each other.”
Anxiety
I have a deep passion for working with anxiety, particularly high-functioning anxiety, shaped by my own journey through grief, fear of death, a broken relationship and other profound losses. It can feel heavy, almost suffocating. Yet, despite the weight, you rise each day, go to work, connect with friends and family, smiling and bubbling with energy to mask the struggle because you must keep going.
What if I told you that this anxiety isn’t as terrifying as it seems?
Anxiety is a human experience that might indicate the danger, stress or lack of connection.
Anxiety that is not expressed and hidden underneath the surface. You find yourself able to live your normal life; however your worries, stress, self-doubts, a sense of failure and more are still present, though not visible.
Integrative Counselling can be very effective for anxiety issues. Because I combine different approaches, it can allow us to address your anxiety from different perspectives – cognitive, emotional, somatic or behavioural. In sessions you can explore your unique triggers and experiences.
Anxiety often comes from existential concerns, like fear of failure, uncertainty about life or fear of death. This type of approach can help you face and understand your fears, reducing their intensity.
Completely eliminating anxiety may not be realistic. Anxiety is a part of your existence. You can reduce it to a level that feels comfortable and freeing by understanding, accepting and working with anxiety.
Sound Meditation
mindfulness technique
Sound baths offer a restorative journey for the self, countering the disruptive noises of daily life. This mindfulness technique can help restore energy, reduce stress and anxiety, and improve sleep. In my sessions, I use crystal singing bowls, a Tibetan bowl, a rain stick, and tuning forks. I can also incorporate guided meditation.
You have the option to include sound meditation in your counselling session, which will require additional time, or you can book it separately.
Sound meditation is not suitable for virtual settings.
Contact
If you are seeking anxiety counselling or couples therapy in Rochester, Kent or online, or have questions, please reach out to arrange an initial 60-minute consultation. We'll discuss your reasons for seeking therapy and determine if I'm the right counsellor for you. You can book the initial individual session through my booking system. Please follow the links below.
I typically respond within 24 hours. All communication is strictly confidential, using secure phone and email services.
Privacy and Data Protection:
- No clients are identified on social media
- I advise against sharing personal information on public posts
- I comply with the Data Protection Act 2018 and GDPR
- I am registered with Information Commissioner's Office (ICO)
- Your details are not shared with third parties
- Strict confidentiality is maintained throughout
If you prefer to schedule your initial individual one-to-one counselling session through my booking system, please click on the links below, choosing the location that works best for you. For online sessions, please select the Rochester location.
Please note: Online scheduling shows limited availability. For additional time slots or couples therapy appointments, contact me directly to check my full availability.
FAQs
Together, we will gently explore patterns in your thoughts, emotions and experiences. By looking beneath surface concerns, counselling can help uncover deeper meanings, allowing for greater clarity, self-understanding and change.
Yes. Sessions provide a safe, non-judgemental space where you can express your thoughts, feelings and perspectives freely. You are encouraged to speak openly, at your own pace, about whatever feels important to you.
Many clients begin to explore meaningful questions such as “Who am I?” and “How do I really want to live my life?”. Counselling offers space to reflect on these questions, helping you develop a deeper sense of identity, purpose and direction.
Absolutely. This integrative approach - a blend of person-centred and psychodynamic counselling, emotionally focused therapy, mindfulness and sound therapy, existential therapy and some elements from CBT - is particularly helpful if you feel unsure, disconnected or at a crossroads in your life. By combining different therapeutic perspectives, counselling can help you gain insight, feel more grounded and move forward with greater confidence.
Yes. I am fully insured, DBS checked and registered with the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP), registration number 409715. I work in strict accordance with the BACP Ethical Framework and adhere to established best practices, ensuring a safe, professional and ethical therapeutic environment.
To remain at the forefront of my field, I regularly attend workshops, seminars, and continuing professional development training. My ongoing learning includes Couples Therapy, Emotionally Focused Therapy, anxiety, co-dependency and OCD behaviour management, mindfulness and non-duality, autistic burnout, and holistic mental health, among other areas. This allows me to offer informed, up-to-date and responsive support.
My special interests are supporting people with anxiety, particularly high-functioning and death anxiety, understanding it as both a mental and physical experience, and helping couples rebuild connection, closeness, trust and understanding.